Can You Forgive Yourself? Here Are My 3 Top Regrets
Mindset, self-love, onlinebusiness
Do you feel the last 6 months, right after January 2020, were full of muddy decisions, confusion, and fear for you?
Have you felt like you were wasting time, energy, regretting your decisions around your work, self-care, and money?
No one will be as hard on you, as YOU. No one will ever judge you as much as you judge yourself.
And you can only move forward and change your patterns if you productively let go of the past: by being “thrifty”. By using all of it.
I feel this deeply. So can you forgive yourself for the last 6 months?
I am with you.
This month, I am taking the time to forgive myself for quite a few things.
A big one of which is:
Committing to a couple of projects that I didn’t feel inspired with, for fear of standing ALONE and paving my wine path.
Wanting to please people I admired, and who believed in me.
Spending money on a business school that I didn’t feel delivered results.
I was going to bed very late every day. Silly, but it had been something I felt ashamed of, since I am a productivity ninja, and thrive on performance optimization.
Why?
Because sometimes, you and I need to swing out of balance to find where it is in a new stage of our lives.
New moves to try, more hard choices to make, more muscle fibers to ACTIVATE.
RESULT:
More discomfort is growing into the person you are meant to live as in this new phase of your life.
Letting go of patterns that did not serve you.
You are becoming more aware of what happens to your life, and your soul when you lie to yourself and disrespect your values.
It happens to all of us.
This is all good stuff.
It is hard stuff, but it is ESSENTIAL for us all: because this muck is where YOU and I connect.
We might have different experiences, but I KNOW the shame, the guilt, the fear, and the courage you have.
I celebrate all of what you had survived.
I know you are here now Being of greater service to yourself and, thus, to others.
THAT is true success in my world.
We need to learn NEW hard things, by getting over new obstacles to growing into a more expansive and braver version of ourselves.
That is where the B.R.A.V.E. Matrix that I now get to teach in my program was born.
The first letter stands for Belief.
Without Belief in your path, in your ability to learn and grow, and in your Purpose, there will be no lasting results in your life or business, there will be no joy, no passion, no momentum that is uniquely yours.
So believe in YOUR mistakes, and USE them.
Those were the right mistakes to make.
A bit of turmoil, pain, and shame. Maybe a lot. Let it go, Celebrate what you gained, and know that you do not have to do that again.
I felt A HUGE power surge when I finally made the tough decisions to let go of the certainty that I had, and with that of activities, I did not thrive in and leaped.
I cried. I asked for help. I got it.
Now, I am in the process of forgiving myself. I forgive that decision because it also showed me just HOW much I cared about what I loved to do, and not doing it made me physically ill.
I also celebrate those decisions. Those mistakes. Those failures.
I got to learn a lot of practical things very quickly, which I would otherwise never have, and I now GET to use it in my work and help others even more deeply.
I learned HOW to do things I don’t like, and will confidently delegate them to others when the time comes.
To live FROM your vision, to live forward, you must forgive all of the things you have created for your past self, that may feel like a waste of time, or make you experience regret, guilt, shame.
I know how difficult it is to afford the time and space to sit in all of the choices you secretly still regret.
The longer you avoid accepting them as useful for you and as essential lessons, the more energy they will consume.
Yes, you have “spent too much money/time”, “ on things that didn’t matter” YES. But it was not a waste. None of this is.
The key takeaway for me, and for you today is this:
Forgive yourself.
But do not try to brush it under the rug.
Examine HOW the things you regret, and feel shame around, have helped you become the person you are today.
All mistakes are right, so long as we see the situation as showing us MORE of what we can become.
See the things you are doing now. They might be “mistakes” also.
How do you know?
You must BELIEVE that if you stop to listen and account for all of what you HAVE learned, you will know what to do for your evolution into the person you want to be today.
What can you forgive yourself for, and HOW will you use it?
Be BRAVE.
xoxo,
Sasha
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